Damn I think I messed up.

[KingDosia]

Just talk to her.
I have a friend to where our friendship went that route, but we talked about it first. Our friendship and respect will always be put first and foremost above all else. If our feelings change towards one another, we talk about it. Mine already have for him and I told him so.....and we're still seeing each other.

Communication is the key to any good relationship, no matter the status of said relationship.

You know I appreciate your response, Knowing of your friend and the situation you described to me.
I am the type to preach the communication in a relationship thing to the fullest. I know what I have to do and have made the contact already. I am just not experienced in this scenario and don't know what to expect. I also hate hurting somebodies feelings especially when they matter to me. It's a hard ****ing thing for me to do to a lady anyway. So I guess I was looking for people who know my pain " so to speak" to help gather my thoughts on the subject.

[nance]

You know I appreciate your response, Knowing of your friend and the situation you described to me.
I am the type to preach the communication in a relationship thing to the fullest. I know what I have to do and have made the contact already. I am just not experienced in this scenario and don't know what to expect. I also hate hurting somebodies feelings especially when they matter to me. It's a hard ****ing thing for me to do to a lady anyway. So I guess I was looking for people who know my pain " so to speak" to help gather my thoughts on the subject.

The truth always should be first and foremost in any relationship. If you aren't honest up front, then you need to be asap....it's hurts more to lie for a time than it does to tell it up front. It also shows that you respect her.

You also might be surprised at her reaction. I was when my guy and I talked about it openly and honestly. We're on the same wave length and it was surprising to me....I didn't know what to expect either. Dating is a whole new ball of wax for me after a 20 year marriage.....

It is better to hurt someone with the truth than with the lies. In truth, is respect....in lies, there is none, for you or the other person.....

[KingDosia]

The truth always should be first and foremost in any relationship. If you aren't honest up front, then you need to be asap....it's hurts more to lie for a time than it does to tell it up front. It also shows that you respect her.

You also might be surprised at her reaction. I was when my guy and I talked about it openly and honestly. We're on the same wave length and it was surprising to me....I didn't know what to expect either. Dating is a whole new ball of wax for me after a 20 year marriage.....

It is better to hurt someone with the truth than with the lies. In truth, is respect....in lies, there is none, for you or the other person.....

True, Very true.
I'm never one to shy from the truth. Problem is I am a terrible liar. lol. NO I was raised with the same type philosophy as you described and feel it to be the best policy as well through my own experiences. It would be easier had it been a friend not as close to me, or one not so attractive a person. "not just looks, but who and how she is". I swear she shows one sign of being upset when I say what I feel in that I am not interested in a relationship or even dating right now. I'm gonna wanna go hide under a rock for the next ten years cuz I'd feel so bad.
I'm glad yours seems to be a happy story in the making. I hope it turns out in your favor.

[KingDosia]

been in this situation a lot, man.

usually my catchphrase is, "so...whatre your thoughts on all of this?"

theyll almost always say. "i dunno, you?" psh women.

then you say "well i really enjoyed the other night, but im just not so sure that i wanna be in a relationship with you. we're such good friends, and i know this sounds like a cop out, but i dont wanna screw things up between us."

that almost always does it. if not, you can just give em a new pair of cement high heels and ask them to check the pH balance of the east rivah.

I got to thank Scottie, I went out with my girl Vee, talked the night away like nothing happened. I had to bring it up so I this post popped in my head as a way of bringing that up. Lol see boxing scene was good for somthing.

[Scottie2Hottie]

I got to thank Scottie, I went out with my girl Vee, talked the night away like nothing happened. I had to bring it up so I this post popped in my head as a way of bringing that up. Lol see boxing scene was good for somthing.

lol man im just glad to see my 19 year old relationship advice carries over well into the upper echelons.

[KingDosia]

lol man im just glad to see my 19 year old relationship advice carries over well into the upper echelons.

It's been said that regardless of the generation you live in, The next is more inelligent. lol.
No I got caught in a situation that in my 30 years I have never came across. I am one that keeps an open mind to learn somthing from every human I meet, or converse with. If nothing else I have an answer right or wrong for every situaton. Doesnt make me the smartest guy, but wisdom has in my experiences outweighed intelligence by far.