Private schools vs Public

[FinitoxDinamita]

So ive been sending my girl to Montessori pre school for the past two months and my wife wants her to continue going to private school throughout 12th grade. That�s fine but im calculating 3 girls plus a boy that I will be having in the future. 4 kids in private school is no chump change.

Any of you attended private schools and how that turn out for you?

[EDD1]

Montessori is very worthwhile man, my daughter attended for 3 years and she gained a lot from it, she transitioned to public school and did even better, it seems like the time at Montessori helped her manage in public school and she was doing great, we then got her into a charter school and that has worked out well for her, but I think Montessori made her a better student

[EDD1]

My other daughter also attended the charter school, and then she wanted to go to a public school, she had a hard time with all the nuckle heads, did well academically but encountered some hard stuff with ****** kids trying to be gang related, luckily she stuck to being cool with everyone and we've never had problems with her, she will graduate this year and has maintained good academic standing.

[EDD1]

I also worked in public schools and it's just a waist of time, the only kids that do well are the ones who have parents that are involved but sometimes even those kids get pulled down with the flunkies, I worked at a high school and I can't tell you how many kids just gave up on themselves cause the schools can't address their academic needs

[EDD1]

It also depends on where you live, in my part of California there is a lot of social economic struggles, and a lot of kids have the wrong idea about school and socializing, funny story: my 17 year old transitioned into a public school at 13 for 8th grade, I wanted her to stay in the charter school but disagreement with her mom led to the transfer, her first week in public school she saw a gang fight/brawl, my kids started boxing at 10 years old and was amused at the fact that the boys had no skill, still that was scary for me cause she had never seen stuff like that in the charter school,,,
So when you send kids to public school it's just a toss up, if it's going to cost you a lot of money to send em to private school I would say it's the greatest investment you can make

[DeathWish]

If you have the means... Invest in your kids... they’ll thank you for it later in life

[FinitoxDinamita]

It also depends on where you live, in my part of California there is a lot of social economic struggles, and a lot of kids have the wrong idea about school and socializing, funny story: my 17 year old transitioned into a public school at 13 for 8th grade, I wanted her to stay in the charter school but disagreement with her mom led to the transfer, her first week in public school she saw a gang fight/brawl, my kids started boxing at 10 years old and was amused at the fact that the boys had no skill, still that was scary for me cause she had never seen stuff like that in the charter school,,,
So when you send kids to public school it's just a toss up, if it's going to cost you a lot of money to send em to private school I would say it's the greatest investment you can make

I will be moving to Fullerton Ca soon and that might be my forever home.

I havent thought about the educational part but I just dont want my girls getting with the wrong crowd. That�s my main concern and the reason why i would invest in them.

My mom wants to put all of them in catholic schools.

[EDD1]

I will be moving to Fullerton Ca soon and that might be my forever home.

I havent thought about the educational part but I just dont want my girls getting with the wrong crowd. That�s my main concern and the reason why i would invest in them.

My mom wants to put all of them in catholic schools.

Oh ok, that tough man cause kids in that part of California will see a little bit of everything, my brother lives in Moreno valley and has 3 daughters, the last time I went to see him he was freaking out cause his oldest is seeing a guy who smokes weed, you cant chose their friends, but you gotta keep em close.
Again, I've worked in schools and sometimes what I see is that parents who are super involved with their kids sports and friends have a better sense of the path their kids are taking, ultimately it's about parent oversight, don't let anyone ever tell you that you are too involved man, I know it's hard cause if you work 40 - 50 hours a week then it's hard to b available(not to mention the insane amount of time people spend in traffic in that area)

[turnedup]

If you can afford it all the way up to college do so, it�ll open up so many more options for her. I pay for all of my nephews and nieces since my siblings can�t afford it.

[RightJab]

The last three school years i did in a private school, got a scholarship so my rents didnt have to pay full fees, its ***in expensive stuff dude, my 3 years where 7 k a year and thats with half the fees paid for via scholarship, thats still a lot of money to a lot of people.

So ive been to public and private, my take away is private schools can provide slightly more opportunities, they definitely instill a good moral/values compass into the students and are stricter, the school days where 8:30-18:00, very long days (4 days a week you spend 2hrs a day at 'games', multitude of different sports available too) so you know your kids will be plenty active.

Also the long days are a benefit for later in life in terms of working a lot of hours, you're already used to getting up at 7am and not being home till half 6 at night 5 days a week, its normality so that good training for when youre in jobs in adulthood.

Now when it comes to academics and will the school quality reflect later on job quality personally i think it makes no odds.

Public or private, if the child is bored with class, disinterested, whether theyre in a public or private school, the result will be the same.
The geeks will always be the geeks whichever kind of school theyre at, if you enjoy the subject, you're gonna want to learn it, if you're not interested in academics, youre not going to do well. The learning environment is irrelevant from my experience of both sides.

Although i would say in general, the private school kids do get all the sports opportunities and other kinds, so if theyre not bothered with school work (some people just are that way) at a private school they can find other things to flourish in, be it sports, private schools tend to have much bigger drama schools, music studios than public schools so its not just sport.
Whichever type of school the child goes to the grades, the academic side its down to the child's personality, whether they like classes or if they dont it is what it is.

The private schools simply provide a bit more opportunity (with hindsight its not like its a dramatic amount more), and due to strictness and how they structure themselves, you're mote likely to get a kid that has a good set of principles nailed into them over the years.

Now, all that moral compass bs, yeah, you can get that from good parenting anyway, for sports well theres loads and loads of different sports clubs anyone from the public can join...

So really overall private school isn't what its built up to be, at the same time they are good, if you can afford it no sweat then well why not try to give your kids the best i get that.
Of both schools i went to, the richest old school buddy now is at jp morgan, something to do with consultancy /legality, he went to a public school his whole life.
Most of the girls from the private school i went to just married someone loaded and do sweet *** all, never worked a day in their lives a couple of them.
Most the girls from the public school i went to, they have decent to good jobs last ive heard, more harder workers in the girls from public and private.

Thats private schools from uk, i assume its a very similar set of affairs in america as here...

The takeaway from it for me is you can take a horse to water but you cant make it drink.